Surviving the holidays without a loved one

surviving the holidays

The holidays are supposed to be a joyful time. Everyone is supposed to smile and laugh. We’re supposed to go see light displays and watch Christmas movies. We’re supposed to spend time with our families and loved ones… but, not everyone gets that choice. I, myself, have hated the holidays since my mom passed away last year. It has been something I’ve dreaded so much that I volunteer to work on those days. I don’t want to come to terms with the fact that my best friend will not be there.

surviving the holidays

Making it through these times can be hard when you don’t have that one person you always looked forward to spending it with, but it’s not impossible. I’m here to share some ways that I’ve tried to cope with celebrating the holidays without a loved one.

#1 It’s okay to take some time for yourself.

Everyone thinks that the best way to combat feeling lost without someone is to be around those who love you. Although I agree that this can help, it isn’t always what you need or want at the time. Remember that it’s okay to want to be alone every once in awhile. I wouldn’t say isolate yourself, but take the time you need to work past those lost feelings.

#2 Talk to someone you trust or write it out.

The best way for me to get my feelings out is to talk to someone. Alternatively, I also like writing about my feelings because it allows me to get it out without feeling as though I’m “burdening” someone with my problems (though, most of the time, those that truly care will never think this). Just let it all out. Whether it be through talking or writing, you need a way to escape those feelings.

#3 Surround yourself with positivity.

The last thing you want to do is allow yourself to be consumed by negativity. Your day-to-day life should always have a positive vibe, but it needs to be even more so prevalent during these hard times. I struggle everyday with creating the most positive vibe I can, but I strive to make it a priority during the holidays.

These tips may not seem like much, but they are what help me during these difficult times. You should never have to feel like you are alone. Whether it’s talking to an internet friend, writing in a diary, or taking some me-time, you always need create the best possible environment during “the most wonderful time of the year”. Remember, the loved one you are missing would never want you to feel this way. Push through, make it positive, and celebrate life. ❤️

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How to Boost Your Self-Esteem

how to boost your self esteem

Now, taking the title in mind, there is NO sure-fire why of boosting your self-esteem… HOWEVER, there are many things that we can do that slowly improve it over time, with some effort on your part. We all struggle with body image issues, feeling like we’re not good enough, and many other low self-esteem factors. I myself have struggled with all of the above for years. I am a curvy, short girl with acne, crooked teeth, and a ton of emotional scarring… but I make it through! I still have my bad days, like I talked about in my last blog post, but most of the time I can look in the mirror and find something that I like about myself. I believe we should all be able to do this! So, I have some tips that help me make it through each day with a little boost, and I hope they help you, too!

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  1. Take care of yourself. This goes without saying but many of us do not do the things we should each day for our body. We were only given one and we need to take care of it. Whether that means getting a pedicure when you’re feeling it or just lowering your soda intake, whatever it is.. do it and do it for you.
  2. Counter your negative thought with a positive one. I do this A LOT whenever I am feeling down. I will think bad things about myself and knock myself down but then I’ll look in the mirror or think to myself, “Hey, this may be something I think is wrong but I really love this about myself.” It really does help. Eventually, you won’t have to think about doing it because you’ll do it automatically and hopefully someday those negative thoughts won’t come around!
  3. Work towards improving the things you don’t like. The only want to improve is to change it. If there is something about yourself that you don’t like, work towards making it what you want it to be. Don’t do it for anyone but yourself, though. I have been guilty of this many times, trying to change myself to find friends, a guy, etc. You need to change for you and only you.
  4. Dress to impress. This is a must for me. Whenever I want to feel good, I dress better. I will wear those heels and nice lingerie to class because I want to impress MYSELF. It automatically gives you a boost of confidence when you are feeling the outfit you’re wearing.
  5. Be nice to others! I often find that when I am mean to others or snap off, I am also doing the same things to myself. Whether it be a bad mood or a hormone imbalance, it is always nice to just say something nice or nothing at all. Plus, being kind to others can lead to friendships (which can also boost your self-esteem!).
  6. Be nice to yourself. This is a biggy. No one really thinks that being nice to themselves is going to get them anywhere. This directly relates to the counterargument tip above. You have to treat yourself with respect or no one else will. You deserve the world and you best believe that!
  7. Start slow and work your way up. Even if you just start with exercising once a week or taking a me-day twice a month, whatever baby steps you can make towards a more confident you, do them! They can’t hurt if they’re positive and you are still working towards that ultimate goal of improving yourself.
  8. Do something you enjoy. I always feel better when I am doing something that makes me happy. Whether is hanging out with my friends or reading a good book, whatever it is that makes me happy, I go for it whenever I am feeling down. Do this! Call the girls over for a Netflix sesh or go on a shopping spree. Whatever makes you smile is what will do the trick.

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Quotes to Live By

Quotes are so inspiring to me. I can look at a quote that lifts me up and automatically feel ten times better than I did before. Positivity is key and having a great vibe that resonates in your life is the best way to live, in my opinion. To share the positivity, I wanted to round up a few quotes that make me want to go through life with a smile.

“The more you like yourself, the less you are like anyone else, which makes you unique.” – Walt Disney

“It’s okay to be a glowstick. Sometimes we have to break before we can shine.” – Unknown

“Life is a one time offer, use it well.” – Unknown

“Worrying won’t stop the bad stuff from happening, it just stops you from enjoying the good.” – Unknown

“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.” – Theodore Roosevelt

“You were given this life because you are strong enough to live it.” – Unknown

“Those who don’t believe in magic will never find it.” – Ronald Dahl

“Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.” – Albus Dumbledore (JK Rowling)

“You can’t live a positive life with a negative mind.” – Unknown

“The best is yet to come.” – Unknown

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